A reader wrote in with the following problem:

I was engaged to be married and invested $15,000 in my fiancee and in moving here to Tokyo from the U.S. After I'd paid for the apartment, furnishings, rent and utilities, now she refuses to marry me. I have also paid $5,000 to help pay her debt so we can focus on our lives.

She says now she is too busy, and I feel she has manipulated me and has been with someone else. Is there any legal support I call upon, or is all of that counted as a gift even when it was given under the promise of marriage?